I have been a blogger & Youtube vlogger for years now. I’ve discussed everything from trying to conceive children, the joys of pregnancy, child birth, breastfeeding and everything in between. I make it a point to be honest and transparent to help others learn, cope, laugh and realize they’re not alone in this crazy world we live in. With that being said, I think it’s equally important to share a bit about this job since I’ve had many people want to be a consultant as well. Please read this post in its entirety before making any judgements.
It’s currently 12:30am and I just finished entering orders in for a party I had yesterday. I’ve been on my phone most of the day replying to messages, setting up parties, posting to social media and well… being social. I had a moment last week where I was completely overwhelmed, tired, clueless and quite frankly, nervous about this journey. I deal with anxiety and I felt it creeping in. It was making me doubt my abilities, my self-worth and my confidence.
::Maybe this is too much for me. I’m not growing as fast as this other consultant. Maybe I’m not made for this business.::
#Anxiety is a powerful feeling that can ruin you. I’m not saying at all that it’s an easy thing to overcome but for ONCE I refused to indulge those thoughts. I grounded myself, reminded myself that both me and #Beyonce have the same amount of hours in the day, and decided to focus on being grateful:
As I was boxing up jewelry, my kids were fighting in front of me. I’m grateful that I had the opportunity to redirect their fighting and put out a fire. As I was dealing with one customer not paying for their order, another complimented my dedication and thanked ME! In the middle of running orders, my oldest HAD to show me his Skylanders Game collection and I was able to drop what I was doing and look at all of his super cool toys. While going live I had the opportunity to discuss anxiety, ending cancer and had “girl talk” with women that have actually become my FRIENDS. While my “in real life” friends went out, I had an in-home party with a beautiful woman that has seriously become one of my dearest friends.
Pardon my French, but what the HELL could possibly be better than this job?
I feel empowered and that I have found my calling. Will I be a Vantel consultant for the rest of my life? Probably not, but I’m enjoying the ride and making phenomenal connections along the way. The company itself is wonderful and built upon sound values and that is something I do not take for granted.
You want to know about the money – I get it. I can tell you that it is a life changing amount and for the first time in our marriage my husband and I aren’t sick about bills. We’ve seen lows regarding income – not being able to afford groceries or the utility bill. Going YEARS without vacations, dates and extra fun things. We’ve been there and it wasn’t too long ago. We were the happiest poor couple you’ve ever seen and that hasn’t changed. The only thing that has changed is the stress level – it has gone WAY down!
On the other hand, there are costs involved with the business. Shipping accounts for roughly 20% of my commission. Taking the shipping costs, the hours and advertising into consideration, I believe the pay is very fair and more than I could possibly make at a 9-5 job. I do not have to pay for daycare (mainly because I have a HUGE support system). But on nights that I have parties I don’t always get to kiss the babies goodnight and I’m up until 2-3am.
This job isn’t always easy. I’ve had a lot of late nights, a few mistakes, I’ve felt overwhelmed, nervous and anxious. The night I was “trolled” was hard. Grown men with families making sexually explicit comments was something that truthfully shook me. I was ok on camera but for two nights I cried myself to sleep and kept replaying those comments in my mind. This is the ugly. Being vulnerable for the world to see isn’t easy and while I’d love to say that anyone can do this job – it’s not for everyone.
CW: Some of the comments are below – this was not all of them.
One of the hardest parts of this night was being told to “ignore the trolls” and then they’ll go away. They don’t go away, they move onto the next victim. I’m tired of giving these low-lifes the excuse of calling their sexual harassment anything other than what it is. I made a video about this night and how I refused to tolerate it on my channel. I had four women reach out to me about how they dealt with sexual abuse in their past and they were triggered by some of the comments left on my video. The internet is ugly and I want people to know that by being a consultant it is full of rewards but you also need to be guarded and prepared for the filth that may pop up.
I’m happy to say that I have not had any other problems since this night. In fact, the amazing conversations I’ve had with my friends/customers have far outweighed any negative experience I’ve had as a consultant.
Being in direct sales comes with many adversities. You have to be a huge self-motivator. But if you can push through adversities you will reveal your beautiful resilience.
I have BIG dreams for myself and my family. In the words of Walt Disney, “All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.” So to my princesses, queens, Prince Charming’s and even my villains, thank you for being part of my fairytale.
I’m so grateful for all of you!
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